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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nice you are asking. 
I would thank her for spending the Holiday with your family and acknowledge that she might be missing her home and traditions. The first Christmas I spent with my now husband’s family I spent holding back tears. I was very sad to not be with my parents and was feeling guilty as I knew they were also missing me. 
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Even if you are fine people, she might not want to share her traditions of her birth family, while missing them. I know I missed a parent's last Christmas, because we had just flown to spend time with DH's cousins, and drunken uncle and uncle's perverted and plainly scary drunken friends, and I was well overdue to be home with my own sane family, and childhood (and high school and college) friends, whom I was missing very much. It was more than a little nightmarish, I wish it was funny. It was kind of awful and awkward, especially considering flights home were so cheap. They might not care what your traditions are, or want to reenact hers with new people.

Try to make her comfortable, don't be judgmental, be hospitable, be diplomatic, clear, and good communicators, be kind and inclusive, don't go on about how your engaged son was the outcast of the family, and don't go on about old stories for the 5000th time.  Oh, and don't have the t.v. on 24/7, if you expect to have conversations and get to know one another. That will help.

Trusting you have a better set up, OP. [/quote]

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