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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. It's in a semi-professional setting (not my actual job but an organization I work with). It's in my neighborhood so I will likely have to see him/interact with him in the future, even if just in passing (which is one reason why his ruthless behavior is surprising to me -- he doesn't seem to care about completely burning a bridge with me even though we live near each other and will likely interact in the future).

His most recent outburst (via email) was very intense. FWIW, several other people messaged privately after he sent it to let me know they thought it crossed a line and they support me. Which I appreciate. But I still don't know how to respond, if at all. Is there strength in just ignoring it or does that make me look scared of him? To be fair, I'm definitely very wary of him now. The aggression in his message was not subtle.[/quote]

I would assume this person is mentally ill, and/or on drugs (legal or otherwise). Some steroid drugs used for legitimate medical conditions make patients very hostile and aggressive.

It's unfortunate this person lives near you. You don't want to give him the impression he can just bully everybody in the neighborhood. I would send a reply, pushing back in a professional way, noting his aggressive form of communication, labeling it as inappropriate. CC to stakeholders. Privately reach out to said stakeholders and find out, diplomatically, how to sideline this guy as a group.

Not the same situation, but the PTA organization worked to politely sideline a mentally ill and aggressive colleague of mine who had threatened me by email. No one wanted to be confrontational, but they managed to persuade her to leave. [/quote]

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