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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it was a victim of Domestic Violence - absolutely.

I really detest people who avoid victims of DV because they fear that their safety will be in jeopardy if they have anything to do w/the victim.

I remember when I was in a DV situation - I had actual friends who refused to even hang out w/me during that time which hurt me so much.

Mostly because it was a time when I really needed a support system and felt like they had let me down. 😞
I even had a restraining order in place against my ex but “friends” were still afraid.

The loneliness + isolation was just another way my abuser was able to gain control it seemed.

I hate victim blaming and shaming…..[/quote]

Right after leaving is the most dangerous time. If it was enough that you were able to get a restraining order, then you should understand that your friends were afraid. A restraining order isn't going to stop anyone who really wants to harm someone. It's a piece of paper. [/quote]

I partly agree w/you that yes, a restraining order IS a piece of paper.

However I feel it can also be used as a huge deterrent for someone who is harassing + stalking someone.

The threat of spending time in jail as well as having a criminal record can be enough for most people to think twice before doing something egregious toward another.

Sure, there are certain people that DO violate these orders - but keep in mind these people are very far & few between.

The vast majority of people that are granted restraining orders usually find them very helpful in protecting them from further intrusion and are able to go on w/their own lives.

These orders are designed for this.

Personally I could never turn my back on a friend who was leaving a domestic violence relationship.
A good friend just would not do this.

Like the cliche goes &gt;&gt; it is when you are down in life that you find out exactly who your true friends are.[/quote]

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