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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I posted above recommending another six months.  Still think so given the new info.

I am curious about his age.  My guess is that he has concerns about whether he can be a step-parent to your child and financially support a new shared home. I think he has a tougher commitment decision to make than you do...because you are clearly ready to settle into a long-term relationship while he may not have been expecting to find a forever person.

I actually think six months is too little time to make such an important decision.  Even without financial pressures.

I also think gentle ultimatums with plenty of lead time are useful for men vs. occasional outbreaks of wandering, stressful, "Do you love me"/"should we break up" conversations.

The "no labels" thing is a bit odd but if he's willing to say you're dating and introduces you to people in his life (relatives, coworkers, friends) then I wouldn't stress about it.  If you don't know/haven't met any such people within a year, that would be a cause for questioning for me.[/quote]

OP here. He has introduced me to the people in his life and we spend time with them regularly. I completely get that being a step-parent is a big deal. I guess for me I don't expect him to know all that yet. I don't know if I want to marry him yet. I know I love him, seriously enjoy him, and want to be in a bf/gf relationship and see what develops from there. To me there are levels of commitment/partnership. Being bf/gf doesn't equal living together, getting engaged, or being married to me. It just means  I like you and I'm interviewing you for the job.[/quote]

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