Reply to How did you develop a relationship with your brother or sister in-law?

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "How did you develop a relationship with your brother or sister in-law?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]

I'm the poster this was directed towards.  First of all, it is my BIL living at home with his parents with 2 young kids.  The ex-girlfriend was 12 years younger than him and she walked out on her children and is now dating someone else and claiming she can't afford to help out financially.  I will do what I can to help our niece and nephew when possible (we live thousands of miles away from them, so we can't help much anyway), but I sure as hell am not sending monthly checks to my BIL who instead of spending it on his children, chooses to spend his money on booze and tats (you know, the huge couple hundred dollar ones?)  And my in-laws, while well intentionned, have not helped him in the least by supporting this nonsense.  When they said they had to move back in after #1 was born because they had gotten themselves into some financial trouble, that was when my in-laws should have taken the reins and put them on a budget.  But no - so they move out after a year, get pregnant again, and then have to move back in when "oops, we can't afford 2 in daycare AND we can't afford life on just one salary."  All the while continuing to go to bars and party with their friends and dumping their kids on weekends with grandparents.

I won't support bad decisions.  If he can show that he is actually being responsible and cleaning up his act, then maybe I would be more willing to help out.  At this point, we went out of our way to write our will so his brother never gets his hands on our money if we should all pass together.  We have it written so that whatever money we have is put into a trust for our niece and nephew.  My husband was upset when he found out the kids had to receive food stamps and gov't health insurance, but seriously, this is what these programs are for and why we pay our taxes.

Not to mention, we really CAN'T help.  We've got bills to pay, too, and our own child to feed and clothe and everything else.[/quote]

forgot to mention - before they got knocked up with #2 - they went out and bought a Hummer H3, because you know, they needed a truck or something.  When a used Corolla would have been a much more reasonable purchase for someone who just barely was able to move out of mommy and daddy's house with their one kid in tow to live in a cheapo 2 BR apt.

I very nearly smacked my BIL when he was babbling on to me about the video system in the car.  We make 3X what they do, and we we don't have a car with a video system...let alone a freaking hummer.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics