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Your brother's mental illness is such that he will always blame someone else, even a child. Please do not contact him again. He will trigger another dramatic episode.

I sure hope his kids are usually with their mother.

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This is good advice, and I say that as a NP with a mentally ill brother and a mentally ill SIL (my DH’s sister). A person like this will always make it anyone else’s fault in order to protect their damaged ego. Often they don’t even know they’re doing it. You are lucky to have experienced this awful episode because now you know: stay away. We are careful with extended family gatherings because our mentally ill siblings revert to especially maladaptive coping mechanisms patterned on childhood roles when around our parents.

My DD is 8 and we talk to her in an age appropriate but 100% honest way about the struggles her aunt and uncle face. It’s really important for kids to know that they’re not crazy or responsible for something like this happening. It’s also important for them to know when and how they can talk about what happened. It’s hard to carry it around as a little kid who knows something is off and also secret (most kids know visits from the cops aren’t “how I spent my Thanksgiving weekend” language arts journal fare) so you need to tell them they can bring it up at any time with you and DH.[/quote]

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