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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's possible to be direct without being tactless.[/quote]

+1.  It’s all in the delivery.  It’s an art.[/quote]

I'm pretty direct, but not rude. DCUM is actually so weird for me because people seem to be CONSTANTLY wondering about these little micro interactions and how to handle them, like there is one perfect chord they need to strike. I have not, to date, experienced any of these horrible social repercussions people seem to fear so deeply when I've just kind of come out with it. The pitbull example, I'd just be like, "sorry, not comfortable with the dog, maybe a restaurant is better for everyone?" I wouldn't waste much time thinking about it. If they're offended, whatever, but as we saw in that saga, many felt the same way. So...win for all? [/quote]

Posted this and probably should have said...I'm not a person to be like, "wow, your hair looks like shit!" or any other kind of "direct" thing and I wouldn't identify myself as "direct" as a way to excuse poor behaviour. I'm an uptight WASP at heart who is always polite! I guess I would say I don't have a problem setting firm boundaries and when I do so, I do not despair about it in the slightest. And if my friend has highlights that looks like a skunk? We're friends, of course I'll make suggestions but also make it out to not be the biggest thing in the world. This kind of directness if usually appreciated with close friends and I appreciate it from my friends in return. [/quote]

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