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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The next time she asks you to do something for her (e.g., drive her somewhere, buy something for her, etc.) you reply simply and calmly, "I'm sorry but I have better things to do" and just go on with your day.  No yelling, no lectures, no silent treatment after that.

I'm not sure what kind of questions you're asking her and when, for example my 16 yo DD isn't much in the mood to talk in the morning on the way to school, and in the afternoon as soon as I pick her up, if I ask the usual how was school today, anything interesting happen, etc. she's not interested in those questions and I'll get "fine" or "boring" and that's it.  But that's totally normal for teens.  And later on after she's gotten home, had a snack, chilled out a bit, she'll be in a better mood to talk.  [/quote]

This, but I would address the comment in the moment too. Something like, “Wow, that was very rude and unnecessary. I don’t appreciate that.”

When my kids are being particularly rude or ungrateful, I give them the speech (same one my parents gave me) that much of their life is optional. I am required to give them basic food, minimal clothing, shelter, and school. Anything else, I am CHOOSING to provide for them because I love them very much, but still it’s optional. And if they want their life to keep going the way it is, they need to shape up. This usually does the trick for a good long while. When I need to give them quick reminders of this I use “hey, more gratitude, less attitude please.” and they know what I mean.

I agree it’s “normal” but that doesn’t mean it should be ignored. [/quote]

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