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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry you have this in your life.

Why are you still in contact with her?  If she brings nothing positive into your life, cut her  off.[/quote]

This is my question. I don’t understand why you would keep her in your life? Seems like you truly had boundaries then you wouldn’t have stayed on the line after telling her you heard her?[/quote]

My dad is long dead and my only living relative under 60 lives even further away than me. I feel guilt and shame as well as an obligation to maintain a minimum amount of contact because I am stuck with power of attorney and some other legal stuff for my mother. I’ll be the one the social worker calls one day.

I know the drumbeat on this board is in favor of cutting people off completely, but it’s much more difficult in reality than angry blogs and self-help books would suggest. [/quote]

OP, The problem is not you, it is your mother. I have a critical mother too. She doesn't criticize my appearance but she's very critical in a lot of other ways like about my parenting. Once after we spoke on the phone and I was getting a kid to come talk to Grandma, I overheard her say something really mean and critical about me to my father when she thought I couldn't hear. I can only imagine that this was the tip of the iceberg.

I am glad you called her out. I did the same thing. As for those who say to cut off your own mother, well that's easy for them to say. I don't want to cut off my mother, so she is still in my life. We aren't in very close touch though, and I do try to set boundaries, not always perfectly. It's hard.

If you haven't already, I will say to get some therapy. Parents can really do a mind job on their kids.

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