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[quote=Anonymous]Just a few things that haven't been answered and a couple of points of perspective.

On the kids, of course they will have a say. In fact, even if an agreement says 50-50 it's not like you can prevent a teenaged child from imply going to the other parent if they want. They basically will choose what works, and it will be very challenging to change it (and it takes time in the courts anyway, which would run out the clock until they are adults).

As far as its impact one them -- your husband has basically said it's going to happen, so you don't really have the option for this to have no impact. Instead, its impact can be mitigated by your actions and guidance. For me (I'm a man. btw), my ex's quitting, while difficult, actually made my relationship with my child much better because my time with my child was surely mine, and wasn't encumbered by trying to cover for her behavior.

Finally, contract law is VERY strong in VA. Meaning you can choose to execute a convertible separation agreement. Basically -- we're not together, we're not going to get together again, and here's how we agree to handle the kids, money etc...and this will be converted to a divorce agreement when we hit the 1-year mark.

It all sucks, but it will be ok.[/quote]

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