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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is he suddenly in a hurry? It sounds like he has someone else lined up. Maybe you should do some snooping or hire a PI. You'll get a much better settlement in a fault divorce.[/quote]

You MIGHT get a better settlement in a fault divorce. It depends on the judge, or your lawyer’s ability to blackmail your husband into a settlement.

But you WILL spend more proving fault because the threshold is high. Some sexy texts don’t prove adultery. You will need to pay a PI, and a lot more in billable hours. There will be depositions and discovery, and court appearances.

And while a fault divorce waives the waiting period, it takes a long time to actually get a fault divorce. You might be better just agreeing to no fault and waiting a year.

Not saying OP shouldn’t pursue this, but she should do the math: what will she have to spend in order to potentially get a larger chunk of the marital assets? What is the value of those assets? Do the math.[/quote]

Dropping $5-$10k on a PI or something makes perfect sense if you're talking high six figures or higher of assets. [/quote]

and in VA, it's literally in the state code "no alimony for adulteresses." Now there are some exceptions like if the wife's about to eat Alpo for dinner, but most women are going to agree to a lump sum rather than seeing if a judge is going to feel sorry for a bored housewife with a college degree.

If I'm anywhere from J. GS-14 to J. Random Bigwig, I'm dropping $10k to prove the tennis coach isn't playing any tennis, to avoid $1-5k/month in alimony.

https://www.divorcenet.com/resources/grounds-for-divorce-in-virginia.html#:~:text=However%2C%20in%20Virginia%2C%20proving%20that,receive%20alimony%20(spousal%20support).[/quote]

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