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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op again. We’re well past the date nights and intimacy effort level at this point…  I’ll just say we weren’t just roommates.  His perspective would be that he’s my last priority, my perspective is that as a fully functioning adult, the kids should be prioritized over him. I think we’re just too far into bad habits and resentment to get back onto firm ground.  We’re in a slow and gentle death spiral - no real fighting or anger, just apathy, resentment and a lack of interest in trying to fix things.

I suspect that everyone we know will be really shocked. It will seem to be coming out of the blue.

How does custody typically work with teens?  I’d hope to avoid court and excessive conflict, but I’d be surprised if the kids were happy with 50-50.  Will they have any say?[/quote]

I mean, if your kids are teens… no… your marriage should be the priority, not the kids.  So your husband seems right in that sense.  The kids are the priority in terms of making sure they are well cared for, but by the time they are almost out of the house, they don’t need constant attention.  You having a healthy marriage and modeling a healthy marriage is one of the best things you can do for the kids, and you’re not doing that for them.

You seem to have contempt for your DH and that is as bad as him wanting too much attention, if not worse.  It doesn’t sound like there are dealbreakers here other than a lack of empathy.  If he isn’t having an affair, I would suggest marriage counseling because getting divorced seems like a big hassle when you could just learn to be nicer to each other.  Habits and attitudes can change.[/quote]

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