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[quote=Anonymous]I can see this from both sides.

I can understand how if you hosted your MIL for a few days, and especially if you were on maternity leave and feeling a little tender generally, it would be hurtful to hear them go on and on about this plan and how great it was going to be and share all the details. I think probably they should have downplayed it a bit more and MIL should have just told you "I'm doing some 1:1 time with SIL this afternoon, since this is the only time I get to see her on this visit. Do you need anything before I head out with her?" Or something like that. It was rude of them to make a huge deal of it in front of you.

But I also definitely think they should of course be able to plan an outing just the two of them. They have their own relationships and with MIL living far away, may not get to spend this sort of time together this often. It was not rude for them to schedule this outing, at all, and they are under no obligation to invite you. If there's no history of excluding you more generally, I don't think it's fair for you to be upset about being excluded in this situation. Don't you think there will be times when your kids are grown when you might want to hang out 1:1 with one of them and not feel obligated to invite an in-law or someone else?

I'd just let it go. Vent a bit to your DH or to a friend outside the family, you are entitled to your feelings. But they're entitled to their time together too.[/quote]

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