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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes we still have a relationship.  However, as time goes on and he is always "unavailable" to help out and all the pressure is on me, it is getting harder to not be resentful.[/quote]

how does the unavailable manifest?[/quote]

Dad just scheduled a surgery and needs to have help.  That happens to be the only week of the year I have a trip planned for myself (booked 9 months ago) with a group of friends.  I ask him to cover part of it.  I'll go down for the surgery and fly out of there for my trip - he says no my kids have soccer games.  His wife is very unsupportive of him helping in any way.  Note:  I have flown down five times in the past six months - spent 20+ days away from my family.  He has been there twice for two days each.  And I deal with all the day-to-day.  [/quote]

Got it. That sucks. I hope your dad notices all of this and adjusts will accordingly.

For awhile DH was doing it all while his sibling couldn’t do it due to schedule (has total control over their work schedule), finances (can’t pay ticket but spent six weeks in Europe last spring and extended trips out west), or logistics (tells us that we live closer to an airport than they do).  A family crisis pushed them to have to take action - DH basically framed it that way and they stepped up. Will see what happens if/when it goes down again.  [/quote]

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