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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]If something is making you incredibly unhappy you have to find a way to change it[/quote]
i just burst into tears reading this. I am so stressed out and I know I have to change but I feel like I can't--[b]right now everything is on my shoulders at work and at home. [/b]I have a huge, huge workload that I couldn't possible accomplish even with no kids and no other life, but I have all tehse deadlines which i have to meet because many other people's work and projects depend on them, and my boss is out with a serious illness so I have to keep things running there too.  so i have to keep it up for the next 15 months. At home i try to do fun things and be a good mom to my kids, but their ages (baby and toddler) are exhausting, i am nursing and never sleep more than 3 hrs at a stretch and usually am up after they're in bed until 11 or midnight working. DH got laid off, we are in debt and I have a dying parent. i honestly don't know how to get through this period. yoga, pedi, mani? no time, no money, no lasting situational change.  i'm pumping right now and even that has crashed--i went from 12 to 8 oz a day in a week.

i have to find a way to live better. i really think otherwise I might truly lose it. [/quote]

If your husband is laid off and not working, is there more that he can be doing around the house and with the kids to help you out?  And as for the breastfeeding honey well, I've been there.  In the long run if nursing and pumping are causing stress and family strife, it may just not be worth it.  I only made it to six months for various reasons.  And if you're using formula then DH can handle the middle of the night feedings while you sleep.  I'm so sorry it's so hard on you right now, but it sounds like you really do need a chat with the DH to figure out how you are going to better manage your current situation as a team.  You shouldn't be shouldering everything.[/quote]

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please dump the breastfeeding and switch to formula.  then let your husband handle the night shift - you need to get rest or you will crack.  
breastfeeding is optional.  don't let anyone make you feel guilty about not doing it.  you will have a beautiful healthy baby whether you BF or not.  
your health and sanity is way more important.  [/quote]

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