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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is all so insane and developed by people who don't get it. What they need is more options to get respite and covered care.

After enough years of just visiting my mom-not doing her care I have learned I am not cut out for this. I think the people who came up with all the techniques to deal with abuse from the elderly can bite me. I think it is completely unethical to keep researching new ways to keep the elderly living longer if we don't have more affordable care options and better ways to prevent mean, nasty again.

[b]I am lucky I was cut out for parenting. I enjoy it. I can manage a lot. I have patience. I would do anything for my kids. You know what I am not cut out for? Having an elderly parent have unpredictable rage fits only for me, shout abusive vile hatred filled words at me and have her then talk to me like I am the one who is nuts...all while also parenting teens, being married and working.
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So I am lucky, after enough years of this and the toll it took on my health and family I hired more strangers to deal with that nonsense. She wasn't living in my home. I wasn't helping her with the toilet. I wasn't carrying her and yet I truly thought I'd either have a nervous breakdown or die before she did because suddenly y health was far worse than hers.

What about the people who have elders acting like monsters living in their homes? You think you can force them to take meds? Don't even get me started about that snow method or whatever it's called to deal with mean elders. After over a decade of my own parents and inlaw elderly issues I think it is disturbing and sad that government money is being wasted on this BS rather than paying for other people to take care of the abusive ones. (Oh and for the record, she was no peach before aging and I did backflips to have a decent relationship with her).[/quote]

This resonates with me so strongly!  Trying to set boundaries but this is so hard to live through.[/quote]

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