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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They are close, but we push that. We will assign two to make dinner together, assign two to clean up after dinner together, assign two to fold a basket of clean clothes, to strip and remake the beds, to clean out the fridge, etc. We also have them all doing homework in the same room. So it's natural for one to ask another to help them study, to ask the others to listen to them give a presentation they have to do at school, etc. [/quote]

You may think what you are doing has brought them closer but I doubt it.  They probably just like each other.  We do the same thing and ours don't like each other.  It's so funny how much credit parents want to take when their kids do what they want.

I have kids who are self driven and do well academically.  I take zero credit.  They also fight a lot as they are really different.  I take no credit.  I mean at a certain age they are going to have their own personalities.

How do you know they won't get closer as adults or will not be as willing to support each other when older?  You don't.  You have to really observe their personalities and make your family as inclusive and close as can be but ultimately respect them as individuals.

Every family is different but I think it's impossible to control personalities.  You should be happy they aren't killing each other and are healthy.  What do you want them to be?  It's like people who have kids because they want someone to care for them when they get old.  There is never a guarantee of that.  You have to manage what you're given.[/quote]

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