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[quote=Anonymous]We didn’t have to do IVF for the same reason, so your circumstances are somewhat different but I’ll give you my perspective.

I also had a preference for girls but we decided not to find out the sex of our embryos for several reasons.

1) there was so much science involved that I liked the idea of leaving some of this up to “fate” or whatever you want to call it.

2) I knew there was a good chance some transfers would not work and I knew if I knew the sex I would feel worse about miscarrying/failed transfer.  (It took until our third transfer to have a successful pregnancy so this did end up happening.)

3) Along the lines of #2, if we only had one girl and transferred first and it didn’t work, I would feel worse than if I didn’t know that.

We did end up with a girl  for our first successful pregnancy.  Our second child turned out to be a boy - when I found out after transfer I had very mixed feelings since I really wanted another girl but now that he is here I am in love and couldn’t imagine him being someone else.  Just some thoughts.

Oh and - if you end up with extra embryos, you may feel very guilty about not practically being able to use them.  We have two remaining embryos that we will likely not end up transferring and I feel immense guilt about it.  Knowing the sex of those embryos would make it 10x worse (for me - I know other people don’t have any problem with it but just wanted to mention it since it wasn’t something I considered when I was in the midst of going through IVF.)[/quote]

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