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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, pick a job you want done, tell him you need it done by X date. He will tell you he'll "get to it" and you tell him that's fine, but if he doesn't, by X+1 you are calling someone else to do it. Then, when he doesn't do it, follow through and pay the guy who did it. You will be happy it's done, and DH will learn that either he will step up or you will find someone who will every time. Don't nag and don't bluff. I think I might stop doing his wash if he didn't step up and get off his iPad and contribute since you're working FT, but that's me. [/quote]

This x1000.[/quote]

Exactly. Action, not words.

Also, tell him you are going to alternate bedtimes EVERY NIGHT so you and he get equal time with your DD. It is not optional. Then, you get to have alone time (leave the house) when it is his turn to deal with DD. Do not do anything - don't put her in PJs, brush her teeth, etc. - that is all his deal. If she doesn't get a bath, big deal.

Lastly, when you have spoken to him, was he really paying attention? Did you put your feelings in clear enough terms? 'I am not happy in our marriage right now. I feel like i do everything.' Then wait for his response. Unless it is, 'Tough crap, you knew who you married and I don't give a crap if our house looks like it belongs on Hoarders', then you aren't getting through. If he agrees, and there are no repercussions (and setting a time frame is key as PP mentioned), then he has no incentive. Trust me, sometimes bringing out the B$TCH can be motivation enough - you just need to find out what will work for your dynamic.[/quote]

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