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[quote=Anonymous]OP, she sounds like a major B. Of course lots of us have screwed up in life. Her retort that she's responsible and has never made mistakes was incredibly unempathetic. It's also a lie. No one is perfect and she of course has screwed up before. She sounds like a lot of DCUM posters! There are a lot of people who are uncomfortable with mistakes so insist on projecting total confidence in their own perfection.

One thing I've learned in life is that many, if not most, people are pretty afraid of admitting that they don't know what they are doing, that they messed up, that they have regrets. I know people often say "especially in DC" but with this one, I really do think this is particularly common in DC. It's a fake it til you make it town and confidence is highly valued here, so there's less incentive to be willing to admit that you are imperfect. That can be hard if you are someone who is coming to term with your weaknesses. This can be a tough place to do that.

I recommend maybe looking for a support group that would enable you to talk about these things freely in a supportive atmosphere. I don't know what your specific issues are, but something like AlAnon or group therapy could be good. Those are places where people tend to be pretty up front about their vulnerabilities and mistakes, and there are actually rules in place intended to prevent people from being shaming or shutting you out. That could be really good for you.

Good for you for learning from your mistakes and making different choices. That can be so hard. I'm still working on it.[/quote]

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