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[quote=Anonymous]I feel this way sometimes. I told my therapist who understood, but she said "oh, so you can't see the potential for her being any different when she's older"?

Which made sense to me...

My daughter does have a lot of issues. She has ocd tendencies, anxiety and manipulative behaviors from trauma & growing up with any abusive father and modeling how he behaved.

I try to do my best with her & see the bigger picture. But I have started talking more about her moving out after high school, and her behavior needing to adjust for our sake as well as her future relationships ie I stay stuff like when you have a roommate in college, that won't work to _____, or it wouldn't be fair to your best friend/boyfriend to expect them to ______ when you _____. Before I would've been happy for her to stay here for post secondary.

But yeah in my head I do sometimes get myself through by feeling like there is an end date. If she's an adult and we have a situation I can leave or she can leave. I'm not stuck being responsibility for the aftermath of all her bad choices or behavior the way I am now.

But her mind is sometimes pretty delusional and I do not know what that means for her or my future. Frankly I don't like her too much but sometimes she can maintain decent behavior for a few days or a few hours and it seems possible things could change. She just seems to like and create constant chaos in her mind and life. I don't.

The first time I went away for a couple nights with just my son, I was blown away by how NICE it was. Just easy and comfortable and enjoyable and nice.

She takes a lot of energy and a lot of space, and complicates anything simple. She has mood issues, and is rude.

My therapist said some of her issues, her friends will"fix" by how they naturally respond, but my daughter is off the deep end if someone doesn't like her or likes other people more. It is really tough to help her see the "her" part of the interaction, and accept it.

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