Reply to My Mom was just diagnosed with breast cancer

Forum Index » Eldercare

Reply to "My Mom was just diagnosed with breast cancer "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would also think about your mom's overall health and how aggressively she wants to treat this. Some people have great quality of life in their 80s and some don't. [/quote]

That’s what has me most worried. She definitely doesn’t want aggressive treatment. [/quote]

If your mom does not want aggressive treatments, then someone will likely have to be on top of things and be ready to push back on doctors. My experience is that specialists tend to want to fix things and treat whatever they are trained to treat (understandable!) so their default will be to throw everything and the kitchen sink at this cancer, but that may not be what your mom wants or what makes sense given her health goals. You need to make that clear and may want to enlist a geriatrician to help you navigate all of this. Recovering from a mastectomy and/or radiation and handling the side effects of some cancer drugs is tough even when you are younger and healthier. [/quote]

All very good points. But if she doesn’t proceed with treatments, the cancer will just spread, right?[/quote]

It might spread when it wouldn't otherwise have spread. Or maybe it will spread even with treatment. Or maybe it isn't that aggressive and will spread very slowly and she will die of something else in several years (or more).[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics