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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did not accept it. I refuse(d) to walk on eggshells in my own home. I demanded he leave and not come back until he went to therapy AND did all the various types of therapies his main therapist suggested. He lived with his relatives for almost a year and a half, and came over most nights for dinner and also shuttled the kids around on weekends during that time. I consider it tough love. [/quote]

Did you worry about it ending with divorce and his having custody time?[/quote]

NP.  I worried about the kids safety being in his custody. Lawyer told me he would get 50/50 if he wanted it. It turned out he didn’t want it, which was a but heartbreaking for the kids. They lived with me full time and had visitation with him several times a week, which often amounted to eating dinner with us for as little as an hour.

When they were little (under 5), I used to go out with him and the kids, or would basically be available at all times because he would frequently cancel or bring the kids back early. As they got older and could fend for themselves a bit more, I was able to withdraw a bit.

I think he knew that he could not cope with them, and that sometimes he could only manage for as little as an hour. [/quote]

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