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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The rule of thumb is half plus seven, right? So 41 and 27.5, which means I think you're within the rough zone of reasonable age separation. DH and I have an 8 year gap that got us a lot of side-eye when we were younger but seems within the noise now that we're late 40s/early 50s.[/quote]

Are you joking ? If he’s 58 then she should be 36? That’s 22 years difference no woman would want it unless he’s loaded [/quote]
+1 that's a dumb rule probably made up by some old geezer.

I'm 52, DH is 56.  When we were younger, the age gap wasn't an issue. Now, nearing retirement and with age, the age difference is much more noticeable.

OP, think of it this way.. when you are 41 (his age now), he will be 56.  He can qualify to live in a 55+ community.

When you are 50, he will be 65 and able to get medicare. He'll likely retire.  What will you be doing?  Unless you have a sizeable retirement account, you are either going to have to work or rely on his social security, and his 401k retirement account.   We are both going to retire in 3 years when our youngest leaves for college. I have a sizeable retirement account and savings that I can rely on.  Will you have that when he is ready to retire?

When you are 60, he will be 75, and may need a nurse. You will end up being the nurse.

I'm sure he looks great at 41. It's the 55+ when you will start noticing his age in looks, and you will only be in your early 40s then, his age now.   How old is your father?  In his 50s? Take a look at what he and his friends look like.  That is what your DH may look like when you are in your late 30s/early 40s. Do you really think you will want to be with someone who is and looks like he's in his 50s?

Can you really imagine yourself long term with someone that much older?[/quote]

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