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[quote=Anonymous]Agree with everyone that on the OB and I’m glad you’re getting the help.

I also want to say that it is understandable to feel anger and rage when a baby has been screaming for hours and you’re exhausted and trying everything and they just won’t stop.  When the newborn stage is awful it’s entirely understandable to wonder if you’ve ruined your life and feel lots of regret and disconnect from the baby that it feels like you can’t make happy and believe you’re not cut out for this.  I felt the same and honestly hated the newborn stage for each of my children.  However what the perspective with time and distance offers later on is that this phase is a tiny tiny blip in the experience of being a mother and raising a child.  You can hate the newborn phase and long term love being a mom overall and be great at it.  You can mourn that you didn’t revel in snuggling and newborn baby smell the way some people seem to and in a couple years delight that you love the toddler stage which other people loathe.

None of this is to say it’s not urgent that you get help (it is!) but sometimes I feel like ppd emotions are just disregarded as illogical hormones which I dont agreee with.  I found it very helpful to both treat my ppd with meds and to do a few therapy sessions with a therapist that validated my feelings which then also helped me let go of them over time.  This is a tiny blip in your parenting journey - at the time it was devastating to feel this way, 6 years out I don’t feel anything about it beyond “yep, I’m not a newborn person and it was a few awful months that in no way define my parenting journey” 
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