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[quote=Anonymous]OP - No one can answer this question but you.  There are a lot of positive qualities to marrying a man who is comfortable being a civil servant - job security, retirement, happy in his job and not bringing home intense work stress, etc.  For me, this would ONLY work if he were also comfortable taking on more of the home/childcare work, and importantly, that he did it WELL and took ownership over all of those life tasks like women do.  I know I would be incredibly resentful marrying a man like this if he came home expecting a wife who had dinner on the table, kids tucked away in bed, and the home spotless while she was also working an intense job making anywhere from four to over ten times his income (like many women do in Big Law).  Or, alternatively, if he promised to take on more of the work at home but was doing a bad job at it.

I have a high-paying job myself, and if I am truly honest with myself, I think I would have trouble marrying a man who was fine being capped out at 180K in DC area, or other high cost of living area.  Given how expensive everything is, including college tuition, I want someone who is making a comparable income.  I also like having a comfortable home without a long commute, the flexibility to pay for private schools, and money just not being a worry.  I am attracted to men who want to go out and provide for their family, just like I do.  We all have our own preferences and I think that is OK.

If you are even asking this question, I think you need to let this poor man go and find someone that you are going to be more compatible with.  He will make some other woman very happy.

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