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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are funeral event coordinators who do event planning much like for any other big event (weddings, anniversaries, milestone birthdays, etc).   You can find someone when the time comes.

Then you send a note to your sister, "I'm planning to hire an event coordinator to plan Dad's funeral.  Do you want to help select them, or should I just find someone to handle it?"[/quote]

I like this approach better:

“Dad’s funeral is at Dearly Departed Funeral Home in Alexandria on [date] at 10:00 am, with interment immediately following at Quiet Rest Cemetery. You are welcome to attend if you can behave like a civilized adult. If you attend and misbehave, I will have you arrested and removed. [/quote]

That's not what OP said.  In the OP she said:

[quote]When the time comes, I would like to be able to plan our father's funeral without interacting with her at all. I am willing to let her do everything, but she would not. She also will not allow me to take the reigns. Are there services in northern Virginia where you can hire someone to communicate with both of us and do everything. It if comes down to the planner saying "well your sister wants x, not y" to keep things moving, I would go along with anything. I simply do not want to interact with her because it opens the door to alarming behavior.[/quote]

So, your missive will only fan an already enflamed situation.  You're ensuring that she'll fight OP and be a guaranteed problem instead of just an expected problem.[/quote]

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