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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP - so you just do everything? How do you deal with the resentment and stay married? [b]He told me the other day he’s so proud that he’s an amazing husband and father and I just stood there stunned that his bar for himself is apparently on the floor[/b]. I have contemplated divorce in the past but won’t because of the kids. I have told him multiple times how unfair I find all of this and how lonely and I guess he thinks that’s fine? [/quote]

I’d be quick to call out this BS.  I like the PPs idea of color coding everything.  I’d also give him one job—make it a good one.  Like following up on insurance claims.  You know where you’re on hold for 45min and they finally pick up just as you are starting a meeting at work.  I’d tell him what needs to happen with a deadline and the consequence of it not happening.  Then I’d give him the stack of papers and let him know I’ll check in with him next week.  It sucks but I’d manage him like I manage my staff.

At the very least I’d want acknowledgment of all that I do.  I’d want to drive home the point that it is mentally taxing, tedious, and requires keeping track of multiple things.  One thing I like to ask is if I was hit by a car tomorrow how would you continue to support our child.  If the answer is I don’t know then he needs to step up and be a parent to his kid.[/quote]

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