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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DW here. I'm your husband as my job is more flexible so I'm the default parent. I set up all the  logistics and do all the driving. It's HARD! And if my DH came to me and complained that HE doesn't like that the kids are in too many activities, I'd laugh and say, well, how do you plan to contribute to make it less hectic?

You don't know how lucky you are. You don't lift a finger to make things happen and you're criticizing how your H does things--that's what makes you a jerk. A giant, entitled, clueless jerk. [/quote]

This. When my kids were in ES they were in camps all the time because 1) we needed the childcare and 2) the kids liked camps. I talked with them after a few years of the camp round to see if they'd prefer if we hired a summer sitter so they could hang out at home, go to the pool, etc. and they said no way. They like camps - which I spent a ton of time researching to figure out what work work for each of them. DH always had a hard time with it. Like you he thought they should just "hang out." But his memories of childhood hanging out summers required a bunch of friends to also hang out with and now those friends are also all at camp.

I do think you would be reasonable to ask for a relaxed family weekend day periodically because you clearly are stressed out and need that but your DH's work to keep everyone happy while you are working is a blessing.[/quote]

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