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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is this new?  If not why did your brother go in to have for kids with a woman who doesn’t want to parent?  For kids under six is a LOT.  If it is new has he sat down to talk to her about it rather than just criticizing her on how she’s living her life/implying she’s a bad parent?  I mean sure maybe SIL’s a terrible person but it’s not like she created those kids in her own.[/quote]

Seems to have developed after the first child. Not a strong connection with the kids. They all want him when they want a parent, not her. And yes, he has spoken to her directly, and with a couples therapist, and his own therapist.  She simply says she doesn’t care what he thinks about her solo plans and she is goes anyway. [/quote]

So when she struggled to connect with and find the energy to parent one child he thought it was a great idea to impregnate her three more times?  And he’s the one who’s trapped here?

I see nothing wrong with a dad being the primary parent and/or the mom travelling.  To me the issue is that the kids need more cumulative parental attention than is available.  Your brother probably can’t give much more (see above four little kids is a lot!) and his wife probably is going to need to step up but honestly I think they’re both wildly at fault for continuing to have kids when the issues with parental attention were present with just one kid.[/quote]

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