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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this is so common.  My parents did this.  I have many friends with parents who did this.

Eventually there will be a crisis big enough that it will all come to an end.  That is the brutal reality.   Just point that out to your parents in stark terms.  Eventually they will get discharged home and will get someplace not of their own choosing OR they'll die in a hospital, which is probably not the ending they want.  I will say though the bar is EXTREMELY low to get sent home.  The hospital just doesn't care and will send people home in a pretty appalling state.

Hugs OP.[/quote]

If a patient has capacity to make their own decisions (and it’s not uncommon for psychiatry to to a bedside evaluation to confirm this), the hospital has no choice but to send them home, because the hospital is not a LTC facility. All they can do is refer to APS to follow the patient in the community.[/quote]

Meh, I'll go with at least the social workers don't care.  My father was falling repeatedly and could not walk independently at all and they sent him home.  Anyone with eyes would be able to tell this man was not going to be able to make it at home, where he lived alone which they knew, and things were unsafe.  As long as someone is at the hospital to get them out, they will discharge them.  My father was eager to be discharged and went along with it.  Of completely sound mind.

In my case myself and siblings are not local, he got a friend to drive him home, we had a cousin drive 2 hours and spend an emergency overnight, and then we got 24-7 home care lined up as quickly as possible (which was not a long or medium term affordable option for my parent or me and siblings but...crisis).  Siblings traveled to get there and stayed on and off a couple weeks to work through system to find him an affordable bed.

So back to OP's post, something like the above will finally happen.  This was my second parent left living alone.  When there are two of them they do tend to stumble along together crisis to crisis.

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