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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He called you defiant?[/quote]

OP here and yes, he called me defiant because I asked him how I could rinse a cup out in a moving car (in his mind, I should’ve known to pour it out of the window I suppose)[/quote]

NP. I would never call my wife defiant, but it would frustrate me if I had to do something like this while driving because she couldn't figure it out. [/quote]

OP here. Maybe that was the underlying issue, that I didn’t just figure it out. But my DH and I have had many conversations about me assuming things without asking, etc. This is why I asked.  I never would think to pour a drink out of his car while it’s moving because I feel like he would get upset about the liquid getting on the exterior of his car. When I play that scenario out in my mind, I see him calling me dumb for doing it. It’s like damned if I do, damned if I don’t. [/quote]

I wouldn't have thought of it either, because I'm not a pig who throws or pours trash out the window of a moving car. I honestly think more men would think to do this.

You should reflect on why you feel that he would have called you dumb had you understood to pour it out and done so. Does he often do that? Meaning, create a situation where you are wrong either way?[/quote]

Neither of us are particularly like that either lol that’s part of why I’m perplexed. The only time I can think of either of us pouring liquid out of a car is at a stoplight and that is so infrequent. Never would either of us toss trash out.

But anyway, yes, DH will complain about a behavior and ask me to do XYZ instead, a week later I do XYZ, and he complains about it. It’s a regular occurrence, which is why I tried to explain to him that I asked how I should pour it out because in the past he’s complained regularly about me making assumptions and taking actions without asking him. [/quote]

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