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[quote=Anonymous]I'll agree with a lot of the sentiments here.

Yes, the grandfather is treating OP's son like an adopted grandchild, not feeling that biological connection to the child.  It is more offensive that the adopted grandchild is being slighted specifically so that grandpa can go and visit the new biologically related cousin and fawn over them.

I also agree that OP should not be making this decision, but that she can give advice, but ultimately the decision and response should be dictated by OP's wife, the child of the bigot.  She has to decide whether she wants to try to be open to restoring their relationship or cut him off.

That said, I would suggest that OP advise her wife to accept this time.  As another PP pointed out, give him on chance to reconsider.  Maybe coming and staying with the family will help him to find out that he actually likes/loves his older grandchild and learn to accept him.   Visiting and spending time with OP's nuclear family may be what he needs to get over his bigotry against non-biologically related children/grandchildren.  If it can restore their relationship, it will be the gift of a lifetime to OP's son, to develop a relationship with his grandfather.  If this visit does not work out that way, then OP's wife can decline future requests, but I think that she should consider accepting, if only to give him one more chance to accept his grandson.[/quote]

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