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[quote=Anonymous]I do what others have suggested, saying “that sounds so hard,” “I’m sorry you’re having a hard time” all that kind of stuff and let them vent. If they say something like “I can’t write this essay I am stupid,” I’ll say “Writing can be difficult. I know I often have trouble starting when there’s just a blank page.” Or whatever

But in addition I make a point of, just as a routine, sharing some of the emotional challenges that I face during my day. I think adults can seem like we never feel negative emotions, so tweens and teenagers can feel like they are the only ones who are incompetent or out of control or whatever. So if I have to make a work call that I am dreading, I will mention to my kids that I am dreading the call. Or if I’m trying to parallel park, I will make note of the fact that I am a horrible parallel parker and that this is difficult for me but that I just have to persevere. Not that I’m just constantly sharing my troubles with them, which is trying to normalize having negative feelings when disappointing things happen or when you face having to do something that is unpleasant.[/quote]

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