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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are there REALLY grandparents that invested in the brand of the college for grandkids. Neither my parents nor my in laws have said a single word about the college search, other than general dismay at how ridiculously expensive tuition is. Little wonder todays high schoolers are stressed out. It comes from parents, grandparents (apparently), and peers (who get it from parents and now grandparents). [/quote]

Are you actually surprised? Look at the level of intensity many people on these boards and in this area have about school and sports. Where do you think it came from?

In my family, my mom understands these issues but my dad is stealth crazy about it. You have to be super careful how and when you tell him anything. Hell act completely disinterested in college admissions, even express surprise that any of his grandchildren are old enough to apply, but then suddenly respond with “wait, why is he going there? Couldn’t he at least go to [state flagship]? Did he bomb the SAT or something?” Right in front of the kid.[/quote]

Time to have a discussion with grandpa---warn him if he cannot control what comes out of his mouth around you and his grandkids, then he won't be around for you to hear his verbal crap
Do it for your kids---quite honestly, if they are college applying age and you haven't shut this crap down, they are already "damaged" by this.

I had a grandparent who considered 2 of his other grandkids to be "the perfect, smartest, best grandkids around, amazing musician, etc " And that was all I ever heard about when I was around my grandparents.  No mention ever about all the accomplishments I had done other than, "that's nice".  No bragging about me to friends, family, etc.

Yet, Ironically, I was actually more accomplished, smarter, went to a better undergrad (got 2 degrees--engineering and Music) and grad schools.  I was an accomplished musician who was first chair in the STATE all 4 years of HS.  I graduated HS with a 4.0UW and got a 1400 (which was 98-99% back then). I went to a T10 university on scholarship and then onto graduate school at T20 (but was T5 for the major).

I hated spending time with my grandparents, because I felt I was never good enough. Luckily, I am somehow quite close with those cousins now.  But I would do everything to get out of having to go see the grandparents/spend a week with them in the summer, because who wants to constantly hear they are not good enough.  [/quote]

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