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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you are going to visit your younger sister who lives close to her father and she insists you see him a lot when you visit?
If yes, let her take care of all the arrangements and just play it by ear once you arrive. Can she compromise and not involve the oldest sister?
Also, I would focus on trying to get my share of dad’s estate and that would be it. Maybe you actually need to have a bit of a relationship with him to extract your sister from there and to make sure your dad isn’t abused by her. If she is abusing him try to kick her out?
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I’m planning a one week vacation for my family to see one of my childhood friends and to celebrate her birthday as we’re all turning 50 around now. My younger sister lives close to my father and she has two kids. My goal is to see my younger sister and her kids as much as possible. We see them frequently as I’m close to my sister and we vacation together at least once a year with our kids and husbands. Her kids are older than mine so they often come to us. I’m looking forward to seeing them. We’re staying at an airbnb so it’s easy and low stress.

My father lives in the same area as my sister and I believe it’s the right thing to do to have my kids meet him for the first time. I hope it’s not a bad decision that I’ll regret because he was a lousy father and is a lousy grandfather. Overall he’s such a selfish and low energy person who always looks out for himself. He has a house in Maui and goes there every year but it’s too far for him to fly to DC…

My older sister is nuts and I don’t want anything to do with her. I also don’t want or expect any money from my parents estate. They’re wealthy and it’s among the reasons they’re so inept as people. My older sister is preying on our father as she told us she believes she will get the house if she can demonstrate it’s her full time residence when he dies. I don’t know or care as I don’t want or expect anything from my parents. My younger sister is the executor for my dad’s will. Last year our older sister wrote some checks from his bank account and forged his signature, essentially stealing from him.

What I don’t understand is that my younger sister said that she doesn’t want to be involved in the planning. She wants me to see our father but she doesn’t care if we see our older sister. Either way my younger sister wouldn’t be there if my older sister is there as they are estranged because my older sister is awful. My younger sister is the peacemaker in the family.

As I’ve been making plans for the trip and told her I’m planning to surprise my dad she got really upset saying that I should tell him now so he has something to look forward to. This is confusing to me as I assume he’ll be indifferent about meeting my kids since he’s never made any effort whatsoever to meet them. She also said that she knows that if I tell him then he’ll invite my older sister to whatever I plan which makes it more difficult for me. [/quote]

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