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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound like a spoiled 18-24 year old asking this. 
Stats show Parents spend approx. $300,000 raising a child until age 18, plus tons more if they pay for college. That is enough.

For this, an adult child should then return the gift and help care for a parent for the last 5-10 years of their life when they become frail and need care. That’s the circle of life.

An adult age 22ish- age 60 shouldn’t need help or be leeching off anyone. [/quote]

First of all, kids don't get a say in what their parents do or don't spend on them before they turn 18. Even if someone under 18 asks their parents for something expensive, they really aren't mature enough to understand just what a big sacrifice they're asking their parents to make. And if a parent thinks their kid should have to ultimately pay back for their college education, they can simply refuse to pay and tell their kid they have 
to take out loans.

Second, whether or not someone "should" need help has nothing to do with whether or not they do need help. So you seem to be suggesting that someone in this age-range who does need help doesn't deserve it. By your rule, if the lives of a 25-year-old and a 75-year-old were on the line and only one of them could be saved, the 75-year-old should be saved, even though 75 is a perfectly normal age to die at, while 25 is much too young to die.

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I forgot to add that many parents set up a college fund for their kids before they turn 18, and that the money in said fund can't be used for anything else. So parents paying for college is potentially another thing the kid didn't have a say in before they turned 18.[/quote]

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