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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know my parents meant well and were very involved. They also didn't want to put me on Ritalin, so they just punished me constantly. For things out of my control. I stood against a wall and would get lectured for hours. I was perpetually grounded, not allowed to watch tv with the family, can count on one hand the times I was allowed to have friends over or go to their houses, made to stand facing the wall each night after dinner for an hour, and for months at a time, not allowed on entire floors of the house. At 19 after failing out of college I got diagnosed with a ton of severe learning disabilies, on top of the untreated ADHD. My parents and school district absolutely failed me.

I also had a perfect sibling. Teach your mom to block your sibling. Your sibling is struggling even now - can't you see that?[/quote]

I'm sorry for you but this goes way beyond punishing. You were a victim of abuse. Have you been in therapy?[/quote]

Hold onto your hat - the psyschologist my parents sent me to (and yelled at me for having to go to - per them I was the reason we couldn't go on vacations) suggested a lot of these punishments. How's that for crazy?! As an adult, I used my EAP benefit at one point to go to a therapist. I went like four times, and then decided I was good enough as is, and can't even begin to tell you how cathartic it was to (nicely) fire her. When *I* chose to stop going to see her. That one thing was outrageously healing.[/quote]

My childhood was very similar to yours, except it was all about hiding my dyslexia.

The psychologist thing is tough. I've found that parents like this come off as very credible. So this psychologist may have believed the crazy things that you parents said about you and their solutions were for the made-up version of you. But it's also very likely that your parents just lied and said the psychologist suggested these solutions to justify doing them.
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