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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A friend is unhappy with her nanny but the search to find a new one has been insane. I've been talking with her about it but I can't offer that much more insight are these normal tasks/asks

Pay is $27.50/hr after taxes 
1 baby girl

Tasks-

developmentally appropriate activities and planning an activity once a day 3x a week - sensory bin, art.

Clean big Toys/sterilize pacifiers once a month/daily tidy especially of toys going in the mouth/teethers. Can run in DW

Load bottles in DW

Stay on top of baby laundry

Keep nursery tidy, no heavy cleaning but wiping down the changing table once a day, keep it stocked, notify if running low on things

Put baby schedule first, keep routine

Asks- friend knows some are not the norm

Mom stays home, will accompany on most walks, once comfortable can discuss solo walks but no napping in the stroller

Only mom and dad will feed baby solids

No playdates

Mom will take baby to classes on the weekend or while nanny is taking care of laundry/tidying nursery/having a break

Basically my friend realizes from interviewing that most nannies want free reign and autonomy to do what they would like throughout the day and see who they want. But she doesn't want that dynamic and is very very overprotective. They need help because of her health needs/she needs a lot of rest right now.

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The “tasks” are perfectly acceptable and should be expected for the rate she is offering.

The “asks”… are definitely not normal. She might be able to find someone, but it’s going to be work. Maybe a younger sitter who is more amenable to taking direction. Or an mom who doesn’t have legal employment options. Or an Au pair if that’s a route she wants to explore.

I think the deeper issue is that this mom has issues delegating the care of her child to someone else. I get it - I always felt that no one else could care for my child as well as I could. For me, it stemmed from guilt - being a working mom. Our nannies were perfectly capable and fine and yet my own guilt of not raising my own kids ate me up. I eventually became a SAHM. I’m so much happier doing it myself. I realized it was a “me” issue and not a “them” issue. I think your friend has the same problem. [/quote]

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