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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn't change my name when I got married. I had always assumed I would, but when the time came, it just didn't feel right and my husband was ambivalent. It has never been an issue, and I am pretty low-key about it - I don't correct people if they call me by DH's last name, I will address our Christmas card as "The DH's Last Names," and somehow my bank still lets me cash checks with his last name on it.

Ten years later, we have two kids, one in elementary school, and it has finally become a bit of a pain. People assume that my DD has my last name and it can be confusing when meeting new parents and teachers, she has asked about it and accepts my explanation but seems a little bothered, and it was never that big of a deal to me to begin with. A lot of families in our neighborhood will meet me first, since I am pretty active, and then assume we all have my name. I correct them and it's not a big deal but [b]I have noticed that almost no one in our community has kept their maiden name. [/b]

Is it crazy to consider changing it legally now? [/quote]

Where is this? In my community in DC keeping your name is the default. [/quote]

I am in the close in suburbs and it seems like on my street it's fifty-fifty. I didn't change my name and sure I get called Mrs. Husband's last name once in a while (which has never bothered me) and very occasionally he or kids are given my last name (worth a chuckle). But who cares? Never a big deal of any sort.

I was born in US but family is from a culture that does not change names. I have always just thought name-changing is a weird tradition.[/quote]

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