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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You really think only one woman on these boards had birth injuries? Gosh, must be nice to be so ignorant of the high incidence of birth trauma, postpartum PTSD, prolapse, etc. etc. it’s disgusting to try and silence women whose experiences don’t fit your positive birth narrative and who are trying to help others know what can happen. There are probably dozens of women here saying this but you think it’s one person because you’re trying to minimize and distort the truth. [/quote]

Lots of women have trauma— from lots of different births. One poster routinely talks abort her very specific pelvic floor damage in the same language every single thread and has for years now. She is not “alerting people to what happens” she is ignoring the needs of others to center herself (see: [i]a thread started by someone with a traumatic c section history[/i]).

If that’s not you then don’t worry. If it is you, you should seek therapy.

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PP with the pelvic floor damage here. I find tin sad and weird that you think I am the only poster on these boards who posts about major pelvic floor trauma. Newsflash: I am not. Birth injuries are really common, but also really taboo and for some reason women like you who have had uncomplicated deliveries and had a good experience feel the need to silence our voices for some reason, which is just sick and horrible, especially since research shows that educating women about the range of possible outcomes (including negative ones like birth trauma) prenatally  can actually reduce risk of birth trauma after delivery and improve psychological well being For women who go on to experience birth injuries. So prenatal education and awareness is actually beneficial and protective, despite what you might think.

I certainly do not post about my experience routinely so maybe you need to wake up and realize how many women are out there who do really experience these things. It’s not just me, one poster who you think is haunting these boards like a ghost. Instead of making up stories about me you should probably educate yourself on the reality of how common these things are, instead of minimizing people and their trauma. I mean, would you ever tell a rape victim or car crash survivor to “stop traumatizing people” with their lives experiences? No, you would not. There’s literally over 400k women every year who have surgery for pelvic floor issues to fix injuries caused by birth and you still think I am the only person who talks about this and has experienced this in all of the DMV? Ridiculous.

Try learning some real facts, you may be surprised and humbled and have new appreciation for the luck you had not to experience these issues.

Incidence of major pelvic floor trauma among women who have delivered vaginally: 20 percent

Incidence of prolapse among women who have given birth: Approx. 50 percent, about 10-20 percent are symptomatic

Incidence of urinary incontinence among women who have given birth: 10-40 percent

Incidence of psychological birth trauma among women who have given birth: 12-30 percent

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