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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the most important thing is to really *really* prioritize taking good care of yourself in pregnancy. It’s so hard with a second child because the first needs you, but make sure you’re eating well, sleeping well, doing a prenatal yoga class (only thing with empirical evidence of making a difference in labor) twice a week. This is going to be an investment in your recovery no matter how you give birth, but is what you can proactively do to increase your odds.

As you get closer to your due date talk to your OB or doula about the baby’s position and do spinning babies if necessary to improve it.

And stay off DCUM. I had very specific medical requirements to avoid a c-section at all costs (endorsed by my doctor) and pelvic floor trauma lady still showed up to tell me what a bad decision I was making. [/quote]

Oh yes, if you had or anticipate or just want to have a good vaginal birth experience and/or if you used a doula watch out because pelvic floor trauma lady will ruin your day. I don't know if she is c-section trauma lady, but that lady will probably get mad at PP for telling OP to do prenatal yoga because she was a fitness fanatic and she had a c-section and it was horrible (and Venus Williams and Gwen Jorgensen also needed c-sections, which proves her point that c-sections are unavoidable...) so no one should ever think that they can avoid a c-section. [/quote]

So basically you want any woman who had a bad experience with her birth or injured herself or had a traumatic experience and wants other women to be aware of what might happen to them to just STFU about it? Ok. I mean, I guess the only equivalent experience I can think of would be if there was a group of active duty war vets who got attacked and injured during combat talking with another group of war vets who survived and never experienced injury and the second group is telling the first group to go away and shut up because their experiences and trauma don’t matter. Ok. Got it. [/quote]

I think the difference here is that the input the OP asked for was how to prepare for a VBAC. No one is saying that people with birth trauma should shut up because their experiences don’t matter.

However, consider that the OP’s post is not a great venue for you to work out your own issues with your birth experiences. Consider that you would be just as annoyed about someone coming to a thread about how to recover from birth trauma to give a bunch of opinions that weren’t relevant to that topic. [/quote]

Yes, and she got some nutty NCB posters spewing off giving unrealistic advice - like saying that the pain is always manageable, which it’s not. So the response was to that comment, not like the PP jumped in randomly to work out her trauma.

The reality is that someone with previous history of birth trauma is at a higher likelihood to have it again. Having a VBAC is also a risk factor for having pelvic floor trauma. And a lot of folks in the NCB community push VBAC as a way to heal from a traumatic C, when the reality is that 1) not everyone gets a VBAC 2) some women can deliver vaginally in the relatively straightforward way the other PPs have experienced (eg with manageable pain, no permanent injury) and 3) plenty of women have a successful VBAC and then end up with more trauma from that birth or birth injuries of varying degrees.

Anyone prepping for a VBAC should be prepared for that multitude of scenarios and take with a grain of salt any generic, one size fits all advice like “birth pain is always manageable” and “you can do this, ignore anyone with a bad birth story, etc etc.” [/quote]

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