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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids are in elementary school, and my answer is no. I actually felt better when they were little and in daycare—I was able to drop them off for a big chunk of time and work. I am actually considering taking a step back, which feels counterintuitive given I have done what’s logically the hard part (working fulltime while having babies/toddlers, working fulltime throughout online schooling). But I do feel like they need me more than ever.[/quote]

I actually think this is one thing people underestimate. I think late elementary and middle school are when our kids need our time the most. But it is hard to see that when they are little. I feel like I lucked out. I outsourced a TON when they were little. But upper elementary, I’ve made it to the top. I can now delegate, etc. in a way that lets me spend a ton of time with my fifth grader, etc.

Years ago, a friend of mine with older kids said “I think I need to become a SAHM now that they are in middle school.” At the time, I didn’t get it at all. Now, I get it.[/quote]

I have a 2nd grader and I'm starting to get it too. I started a new job in a leadership role when DD was 12 weeks old and everyone thought I was insane, but it wasn't near as hard as I thought it would be. Now I'm almost 8 years into this job, worked my way up to one of the most senior roles in the company, promoted several times over and now it's just starting to feel hard. Not the work part (that part is easier than ever) but the work life balance is HARD. She's very busy in activities, so that's a lot to manage. She wants me to take her to school (vs DH who WFH) and pick her up (she does aftercare) and I just can't. I also can't take her to all of her activities, but I'm almost always there to watch at some point, but man is it hard (and getting harder) to pull that off as she devotes more time to activities.

I'd give anything to work part time so I could be the one to take her to school, pick her up from school, take her to every activity, etc. I don't feel like I get enough time with her right now. We try to make weekends count, but those are busy too and I'm exhausted. It's hard having a kid this age and being at the pinnacle of your career. [/quote]

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