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[quote=Anonymous]Do you have any children? If you don’t yet, but plan to, now is the time for you to have a gentle but firm conversation with your wife about how you will both handle the logistics of running your household. I’m really good at some things, but terrible at getting rid of junk mail, so for example, in our household, dh goes through the mail and determines what should be kept. I’d save a million catalogs and coupons if he didn’t pitch them. Approach this as her partner, her teammate. Figure out together which tasks she does well and which ones will be yours. It may be that she can handle regularly occurring tasks, but not one offs. Maybe she habitually misses deadlines or maybe she needs the motivation of a deadline.

She needs to find the system that works best for her (post-it notes, a whiteboard, reminders in her phone, a dedicated 15 minute period per week when she accomplishes one task she’s been putting off, a weekly check-in with you, being given just one task at a time and a deadline for completing it, a competition to see who can accomplish the most chores on a Saturday, whatever floats her boat). Then you need to find out how you can best support her. Maybe she hates being asked if she’s done a specific task yet. Maybe she’s more likely to do it if you say, “hey, we’re both free on Friday, why don’t you call the bank right now and schedule that notary appointment?” Maybe she has mild social anxiety and just hates talking to strangers on the phone. What would happen if you asked her to come over to the phone and you just called the bank, put the call on speakerphone, and arranged the appointment with her?

My point is that, as spouses, you need to find mutually acceptable ways to get things done.
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