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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. She is not HFA or SN. She gets annoyed easily at certain sounds & smells, however. She’s currently a junior in high school. She went to an 8 week sleep away camp in middle school and had a tough time living with others. She has former teammates who have complained about their college roommates when she’s seen them. She says that she absolutely could not handle sharing a room because her roommate might burn sage or incense, smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, leave the dorm room propped open to outside leaving the possibility of her stuff being stolen, be too loud at night or get mad at her for waking up really early as she prefers to do. [/quote]
NP.. you know, I loved it when I got to finally live alone. My siblings and I shared a room; I had college room mates and then after I graduated. I finally got my own place sans roommate at 28.

BUT, there is something to be said about having to learn to compromise and deal with interpersonal conflicts. It's a great learning experience for her future career and in life.

She sounds like she's herself somewhat difficult, inflexible, and doesn't know how to compromise. Let it be a learning experience for her.[/quote]
to add.. I would imagine most schools have a questionnaire that pairs you up with people with similar preferences.  UMD does that.. they ask about whether you wake up early/late, bothered by drinking, vaping, etc... [/quote]

+1 to what PP’s have said about learning to compromise and colleges trying to match up similar students.

I would add that most colleges prohibit burning/smoking anything in a dorm room as a fire/safety risk.  I couldn’t send my daughter a birthday candle because she said that even if she didn’t light it, having it in her dorm room could potentially get her kicked out of the dorm.

Assuming your daughter’s dorm doesn’t allow fire in the rooms, she should have enough moral justification to convince the roommate not to smoke/burn things in the room. If all else fails, report it to the RA and let her deal with it. Unfortunately, there’s no way to keep a roommate from smoking elsewhere and bringing the scent back on her clothes, but at least that would be less intense. 
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