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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is not HFA or SN. She gets annoyed easily at certain sounds & smells, however. She’s currently a junior in high school. She went to an 8 week sleep away camp in middle school and had a tough time living with others. She has former teammates who have complained about their college roommates when she’s seen them. She says that she absolutely could not handle sharing a room because her roommate might burn sage or incense, smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, leave the dorm room propped open to outside leaving the possibility of her stuff being stolen, be too loud at night or get mad at her for waking up really early as she prefers to do.

NP.. you know, I loved it when I got to finally live alone. My siblings and I shared a room; I had college room mates and then after I graduated. I finally got my own place sans roommate at 28.

BUT, there is something to be said about having to learn to compromise and deal with interpersonal conflicts. It's a great learning experience for her future career and in life.

She sounds like she's herself somewhat difficult, inflexible, and doesn't know how to compromise. Let it be a learning experience for her.

to add.. I would imagine most schools have a questionnaire that pairs you up with people with similar preferences. UMD does that.. they ask about whether you wake up early/late, bothered by drinking, vaping, etc...

+1 to what PP’s have said about learning to compromise and colleges trying to match up similar students.

I would add that most colleges prohibit burning/smoking anything in a dorm room as a fire/safety risk. I couldn’t send my daughter a birthday candle because she said that even if she didn’t light it, having it in her dorm room could potentially get her kicked out of the dorm.

Assuming your daughter’s dorm doesn’t allow fire in the rooms, she should have enough moral justification to convince the roommate not to smoke/burn things in the room. If all else fails, report it to the RA and let her deal with it. Unfortunately, there’s no way to keep a roommate from smoking elsewhere and bringing the scent back on her clothes, but at least that would be less intense.

Kids need to be more aggressive when issues pop up & not be afraid at all to involve their RA.

Anonymous wrote:I think colleges need to get away from the roommate model. My son is not college aged but there’s no way he could handle sharing a room with someone else. He has SN, but if you are paying a crap ton of money for college kids shouldn’t have to put up with other peoples smoking, sex, drunkenness etc. it’s an antiquated model. I agree with the previous poster who said quads are a good idea.

I think you should pay a buttload more money if you think colleges should build more single rooms. So many colleges already have issues with not enough housing.

If he has SN, he can ask for accommodations. They have them.

Smith College, although not every freshman. You'll certainly get a single by sophomore year. I know, I was that introvert.

My DD had a difficult time living with people she didn’t know well/too many people in one apt in college and called campus police on them multiple times. Lived in on-campus housing of various kinds all four years.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is not HFA or SN. She gets annoyed easily at certain sounds & smells, however. She’s currently a junior in high school. She went to an 8 week sleep away camp in middle school and had a tough time living with others. She has former teammates who have complained about their college roommates when she’s seen them. She says that she absolutely could not handle sharing a room because her roommate might burn sage or incense, smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, leave the dorm room propped open to outside leaving the possibility of her stuff being stolen, be too loud at night or get mad at her for waking up really early as she prefers to do.

You should make her get a roommate.

Not OP but the only time I ever shared a bedroom was freshman year of college, and then again I was engaged to now. That’s it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is not HFA or SN. She gets annoyed easily at certain sounds & smells, however. She’s currently a junior in high school. She went to an 8 week sleep away camp in middle school and had a tough time living with others. She has former teammates who have complained about their college roommates when she’s seen them. She says that she absolutely could not handle sharing a room because her roommate might burn sage or incense, smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, leave the dorm room propped open to outside leaving the possibility of her stuff being stolen, be too loud at night or get mad at her for waking up really early as she prefers to do.

You should make her get a roommate.

+1, these are life skills

I think colleges need to get away from the roommate model. My son is not college aged but there’s no way he could handle sharing a room with someone else. He has SN, but if you are paying a crap ton of money for college kids shouldn’t have to put up with other peoples smoking, sex, drunkenness etc. it’s an antiquated model. I agree with the previous poster who said quads are a good idea.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is not HFA or SN. She gets annoyed easily at certain sounds & smells, however. She’s currently a junior in high school. She went to an 8 week sleep away camp in middle school and had a tough time living with others. She has former teammates who have complained about their college roommates when she’s seen them. She says that she absolutely could not handle sharing a room because her roommate might burn sage or incense, smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, leave the dorm room propped open to outside leaving the possibility of her stuff being stolen, be too loud at night or get mad at her for waking up really early as she prefers to do.

You should make her get a roommate.

Michigan did back in my day.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is not HFA or SN. She gets annoyed easily at certain sounds & smells, however. She’s currently a junior in high school. She went to an 8 week sleep away camp in middle school and had a tough time living with others. She has former teammates who have complained about their college roommates when she’s seen them. She says that she absolutely could not handle sharing a room because her roommate might burn sage or incense, smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, leave the dorm room propped open to outside leaving the possibility of her stuff being stolen, be too loud at night or get mad at her for waking up really early as she prefers to do.

NP.. you know, I loved it when I got to finally live alone. My siblings and I shared a room; I had college room mates and then after I graduated. I finally got my own place sans roommate at 28.

BUT, there is something to be said about having to learn to compromise and deal with interpersonal conflicts. It's a great learning experience for her future career and in life.

She sounds like she's herself somewhat difficult, inflexible, and doesn't know how to compromise. Let it be a learning experience for her.

to add.. I would imagine most schools have a questionnaire that pairs you up with people with similar preferences. UMD does that.. they ask about whether you wake up early/late, bothered by drinking, vaping, etc...

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She is not HFA or SN. She gets annoyed easily at certain sounds & smells, however. She’s currently a junior in high school. She went to an 8 week sleep away camp in middle school and had a tough time living with others. She has former teammates who have complained about their college roommates when she’s seen them. She says that she absolutely could not handle sharing a room because her roommate might burn sage or incense, smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, leave the dorm room propped open to outside leaving the possibility of her stuff being stolen, be too loud at night or get mad at her for waking up really early as she prefers to do.

NP.. you know, I loved it when I got to finally live alone. My siblings and I shared a room; I had college room mates and then after I graduated. I finally got my own place sans roommate at 28.

BUT, there is something to be said about having to learn to compromise and deal with interpersonal conflicts. It's a great learning experience for her future career and in life.

She sounds like she's herself somewhat difficult, inflexible, and doesn't know how to compromise. Let it be a learning experience for her.

OP here. She is not HFA or SN. She gets annoyed easily at certain sounds & smells, however. She’s currently a junior in high school. She went to an 8 week sleep away camp in middle school and had a tough time living with others. She has former teammates who have complained about their college roommates when she’s seen them. She says that she absolutely could not handle sharing a room because her roommate might burn sage or incense, smoke pot, smoke cigarettes, leave the dorm room propped open to outside leaving the possibility of her stuff being stolen, be too loud at night or get mad at her for waking up really early as she prefers to do.

Lots of college have singles but they are hard to get. Unless you DD has some sort of medical issue, you should try to get over the fear of a roommate. I was concerned about my son since he was a bit of a spoiled prince and I couldn't picture him having to adapt to a roommate. It was a complete and total non-issue and he ended up making a million friends and opted to move in with FOUR roommates next year so they can turn the other bedroom into a lounge. They can surprise you- and for that matter themselves since my son would have opted for a single if he could have and now is very happy he did not.

Anonymous wrote:Westchester in Pennsylvania has singles.

My child goes there. It does but not for freshmen.