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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I guess I am bitter and yes resentful. Meaningless mean behavior. The grief isn’t about her and her death, it’s the grief over what it should have been like. Or could have been. [/quote]

NP here.  I hear you, OP.  When we have known nice parents (even long term boyfriend's parents!) as nice, kind, warm, welcoming, fun, funny and well, sane people - it just isn't the same when you get stuck with a bitter, mean, selfish old hag.  My MIL was nasty for the last thirty years - always 1:1 - but everyone gushes over her because she is old.  I will gush too, and it will be hilarious, because I know the truth.

Buy yourself a nice black dress and celebrate the end of this toxicity.  Maybe sing "Ding Dong the Witch is Dead" to yourself and with your friends, when this horrible, nasty chapter is over.  Throw yourself a (truly!!) Happy Hour. Your DH will be relieved, too.  Trust me, the toxic MILs were terrible parents, and the DHs know this. My DH is the same, and MIL perpetuated the triangulation, toxicity and "ranking" in the family. Hoping the toxic, enable (by MIL)  SIL cleanses her soul when this is over, too. But I won't hold my breath.

Point is, it is almost over, and their legacy is how they treated you and your kids. Kids know, they aren't stupid. Take peace in the fact that most people know the truth. You are not alone.  [/quote]

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