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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've never felt like a teacher outright didn't like my kid. But they are never the favorite and I think sometimes teachers are frustrated that she can be a bit of a tough nut to crack -- she's slow to warm to new people and can be reluctant to try new things. She's not one of those kids who is just ready to go on Day One. In theory I think this makes her a rewarding kid to teach. She's very bright and responds really well to praise (I don't just mean that she likes praise, but that it's enormously motivating to her and when you offer regular praise, she'll really step up and give you her best effort and behavior).

But in a class full of kids, that's kind of high maintenance, and I think most teachers just gravitate to the kids who don't require that kind of work. It's fine -- she comes out of her shell eventually and gets alone well enough with teachers. But I do hope at some point she gets a teacher who just clicks with her and is willing to (and has at the bandwidth to) give her that little extra effort to see how truly great she can be. It doesn't have to be every year but I know it would be enormously formative for her. Maybe it will come in one of her extra-curriculars. We'll see.[/quote]

I have a son who is like that and I know what you mean. I also work with school age kids and know firsthand how puzzling it can be when there is very little feedback. However I try and I make sure I praise each kid who comes my way - especially as they all deserve it, for one thing or other.
I have actually even spoken to my kid about this - he is a bit older, in 7th grade, so I think he is capable of understanding- how important it is to be likeable, or at least respectful, willing to do your best, appreciative, easy going etc. I told him he didn’t have to really feel it in him - just pretend his is like that (and then I am sure the fake it till you make it rule will kick in, but I don’t say that). 
He did meet a few special coaches and teachers who really got him - I remember one coach in particular- and I am immensely grateful to them. I hope your DD meets that special teacher too. [/quote]

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