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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, my adult kids are not asking or expecting me to cover this BS. They are just venting. So, I am venting, and strongly suggesting that parents of the wedding couple, and especially the wedding couple, heed my plea, and just consider others' financials. 
My adult kids accepted the position of Bride's Maid, Best Man, Maid of Honor, Groomsmen etc. not being aware that it is expected that they will have no qualms about shelling out upwards of $1000 per wedding. It's extremely inconsiderate.  [/quote]

I am mid-30s and my friends that are getting married now are much more extravagant and lavish than those who got married in their 20s. For example, I had one childhood friend recently get married in Costa Rica (flights were $600/each, plus $750/night at the all-inclusive).

I was in the wedding party so I got access to all of the behind-the-scenes drama; the couple is still upset a few weeks later because most people didn't gift anything on top of spending $3500/couple and 3 PTO days to celebrate; the bride was upset that only some of us travelled for the destination (driving) bachelorette; the bride was PO'd at the MOH for not throwing a more lavish bridal shower, and the kicker - the bride is still mad that the groom's side had a better turnout for the wedding, even though he comes from a more well-to-do family. I have known this person forever and it really colored my opinion of her. I know her family was upset they couldn't swing it, and I know they tried to explain to her what would happen, but she wanted that destination wedding (everyone else be damned).

I think it's fine when people want to do whatever they want for their wedding - go get married at the zoo on the moon with 15 bridesmaids for all I care - but people can't get upset when others can't/won't participate for any reason.[/quote]

Not defending the couple, but yes the people who attended but didn’t send a gift are rude. They could afford $3,500 for the trip but not an extra $50 or $100 for a gift card or blender?[/quote]

I'm guessing this couple expected way more than $50-100 or a blender.  Just a wild guess....[/quote]

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