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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Family reunions are the absolute worst and my husband's side has a few every single year. A few old people love them but I'm sorry. I hate having to rearrange sports schedules and vacation schedules to accommodate these activities that even my husband hates. There is no am hell. I would ever continue planning them after mother-in-law dies. 
If he wants to, he can. 
[b]As for my side of the family, we get together when it works but people are invited not summoned to attend. If I plan something I tell people we're doing it this day and time. If you can make it great if not okay. [/b]
Just because you are family, I don't think you should be obligated to spend weekends every month together. In this busy day and age I've got too much on my plate to add more social events that I'm obligated to attend that. I'm sorry are just not that much fun[/quote]

Um, you are accepting their "summons" as summons. You can just as easily treat it as an invitation, and go when you want to and decline when you don't want to. And what? And then what? Your MIL will hold you at gunpoint and frog-march you into the car? Your FIL will disinherit your husband? MIL will go to a voodoo priestess and lay a centuries-long curse on your lineage? What would the consequence be? And even if there is an emotional "consequence" like silent treatment or distancing, who the hell cares? All that would be is proof you made the right call.[/quote]

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